Monday Mantra :: LET GO OR BE DRAGGED.
Sometimes we want something to work so much that we sacrifice our self worth and dignity. Whether it’s a soul sucking job, unrequited love, or big goals that never seem to manifest no matter how hard we try; we’ve all been in a situation where we’ve felt out of control.
Letting go of something I’ve put time, effort, and love into can be difficult. When I’m passionate about a project or relationship, I️ put in 100%. If it doesn’t work out, I overanalyze every detail, desperate for an explanation for my failure. I find myself stuck in a loop of trying to fix the situation, even if deep down I know I’m trying to fit a square into circle.
I’m hard on myself. I’ve been prone to obsess over my failures or shortcomings, which is something i’ve been working on healing. I find that the voice in my head is a lot kinder when I’m in a regular meditation routine. I also notice that I’m able to focus on myself more rather than fantasizing about what could’ve been.
No job, human, or endeavor is worth your dignity and self respect. Letting go is difficult, but letting yourself be dragged by heartbreak is worse. I’ve curated a list of my favorite rituals for letting go. A lot of these are already incorporated in my daily self care.
- Turn off your cell phone and leave the house for at least an hour.
- Write a letter.
- Buy yourself a bouquet or new houseplant.
- Burn something that holds meaning to the relationship.
- Meditate for at least 5 minutes everyday for a week straight.
- Sweat at least 3 times a week.
- Make tea every night.
- Finish reading a book.
- Take a break from social media.
- Avoid screens.