<< Monday Mantra >> Go where you are celebrated, not tolerated >>
Have you ever been involved in a vicious cycle? Whether it is work, friendship, or in romance, people tend to get comfortable in situations, even when they know they are no longer positive. One lesson that I continue to learn in life is that things aren't going to change themselves. Even though it can be extremely difficult, sometimes you have to know when to let go. This week's mantra is, "I will go where I am celebrated, not tolerated."
This mantra is a call to your inner warrior. Sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we face excruciating ups and downs. These toxic relationships can build you up just to break you down. Other times these scenarios aren't so intense. Throughout life we can find ourselves in a position where we are just plain complacent. During a past relationship I found myself just going through the motions. I wasn't miserable, but I wasn't necessarily stoked on life. I would come home each day to a partner who acted indifferent to me. I tried my best to be the perfect girlfriend in order to gain appreciation. No matter what I tried, nothing seemed to impress him. Over time I eventually began to take his lack of interest personally. Every day I remember thinking to myself, "What is wrong with me?" Eventually I discovered the answer to that question is that there was nothing wrong with me, I had just allowed myself to get caught up in a relationship that was no longer serving either party involved. Although it wasn't simple, I moved on. Trust me, it was worth it.
We all know that leaving is easier said than done. I find it helpful to focus on the window of opportunity that has presented itself because of your willingness to step out of my comfort zone. Now that you aren't wasting your time on your shitty job, an ex-friend, or former lover you now have the ability to place your energy on cultivating more meaningful relationships. It is common to get caught up in the stress when exiting a relationship. Be grateful the parts of your life that are opening up because of your change of heart. Seek out the people who love you just the way you are. Never settle for a person or situation who makes you feel mediocre. Strive to maintain relationships that build you up. You deserve to feel worthy, beautiful, and intelligent. Surround yourself with individuals who are on the same page.
Thank you for reading! xx Rachael Arias