>> Monday Mantra << Quit Telling People More Than They Need to Know
We live in a society where we are encouraged to share our thoughts. There are many platforms that provide us a way to express our opinions, plans, achievements, and what we ate for dinner. Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, Tumblr, Pinterest, Yelp, and Twitter have turned everyone into photographers, models, film/food critics, and political commentators. I like hearing about my friends' opinions and what interests them through social media, but I could do without the over-sharing.
In person and on the internet, I feel like people are too quick to tell people the details of their lives. I'm definitely guilty of this and it's something I've been working on these past few months. I'd be lying if I said I didn't want other people to find me interesting. So of course an extension of this is sharing impressive and unusual anecdotes about myself with the people that I encounter. Sometimes I catch myself opening up to new friends with exciting stories from my past and I think to myself, "Why am I sharing this?" Most of the time I can't come up with a valid answer. My only reason for sharing is that I just want my peers to think I'm intriguing, which is pretty shallow.
There is another side to this which I constantly see my friends do online: post about things they are planning on doing. Verbalizing your goals has actually been proven to make you less likely to accomplish them. You get the rush of people acknowledging your efforts without actually having to put in any work. I'd much rather congratulate my friends on a success than to hear all about how they are going to do something only to have them eventually fizzle out on their plans. It is okay to be excited about something, but I think that it is better to keep certain things to yourself or only include close friends on your ideas.
I cut back heavily on social media over the summer and I realized that I was able to live in the moment significantly more. I decided I am going to make an effort to only share information that is thoughtful and for the right intentions. I notice that a lot of my friends have a subconscious mentality that if they don't post a cool moment on social media, then it's almost as if it didn't happen. Don't let this be your state of mind! Live first and share later. Or better yet, don't share at all. Some things are sweeter when they are kept to yourself. A little mystery never hurt anyone, but oversharing definitely has.
Thank you for reading! xx Ray